I feel your pain man
I broke the stabilizer hole on my space bar, because I tried to remove the wire - still feel bad about it every time I look at the board
But as far as I know I don't see what you feared happening to the space-bar if you properly remove the two plastic parts holding the stabilizer in place and having a good and correct grip on it when you go ahead and slowly try to pull on it. Don't forget to do a gentle back- and forth motion while doing so, but I guess you already knew that